Expat Childhood in the Middle East
Motherhood,  Qatar

Expat Childhood in the Middle East

For a few weeks now,  I have been helping my parents pack up from our home in Mesaieed. To be precise, bits and pieces of my childhood are either thrown away, given to charity, sent for recycling or in a cardboard box waiting to be flown back to our home country. A silent sense of sadness permeates through me. I as an adult 20 something suddenly feel like ‘the place of my childhood’ has ceased to exist.

 Expat Childhood in the Middle East

First things first, I consider my host country – Doha – more home than my home country – India. I find comfort in the sense of familiarity of friends I know since my childhood. Mesaieed is home. Abu Hamour was the school zone. Wakrah is where we went every weekend during school days for dinner with Uncle and family. Al Khor was where my husband was living when we first met. Al Kharaitiyat is where we rented our first house as a small family of two. Some of the highlights of my childhood in Doha – Thursday Friday as weekends, Captain Majid cartoon, Young Times, Toy town, Aladdin’s Kingdom, Al Bidah park, Eid fair at school, Eid and Garangaou celebrations at the local club, Ifthar meets and parties. Doha is everything to me and more.

…yet as an expat, you know the length of your stay in this country is as long as the validity of your Resident Permit. Still when it comes to actually leaving the country  (or in my case, parents leaving), there is a sense of dread and anxiety. I look back onto the concept of Expat Childhood in the Middle East.

Having an expat childhood means you are exposed to a myriad of cultures and people with different and unique ways of thinking and lifestyle – something I would not have experienced in my hometown. You see the Fanous lighting up on your Egyptian neighbour’s balcony when you have just had Diwali sweets with your classmates. Ramadan and Eid are festivals of its own. So is the National Day Celebrations (Independence Day when we were kids)

A discussion in one of the Facebook parenting groups I am part of was how expat children are always introverts and shy. I had to rethink about expat childhood after that discussion because I am an introvert and quite shy. Has my expat childhood been responsible for it or is it an inherent trait in me? The comments we usually hear while in India about expat kids are ‘Gulf kids are like broiler chicken, They do not know how to take public transport systems, They do not know how to behave with people or be social’ and so on. I feel this depends on the family setting than being an expat.

Growing up I remember having events almost every weekend – either religious classes, Dad college alumni meetings, Mom’s friend’s circle, school programs, family meets and so on. Opportunities are readily available in Doha. It is how you make use of it that matters instead of a blanket approach that expat children have a boring childhood or Doha is boring.  With events all year round, beaches and malls, playgroups and dance/music/art classes around town – I really believe it is how you deal with the situation. Over the years, I find Doha has become increasingly family friendly.

The ephemeral nature or sudden job termination of Middle Eastern expat life has its downside for kids too. With increasing job layoffs both in the public and private sector due to the current crisis, many parents with school going students had to return back suddenly, during the middle of school year. This becomes an issue for students who are either in the 10th or 12th grade of the Indian system  (considered important years/exam in Indian education system) and can not get admission in the same grade they are in, instead, a grade lower thus losing a year of their academic life.

An advice I would give expat parents is to make sure children are in touch with the country you will eventually return back (Especially in the case of having to leave the Middle East suddenly). So that they do not have a sudden culture shock in the case of a sudden repatriation. (Wrt India it would be insects and other general hygiene issues) It would also be better to let children know of the job nature in the Middle East especially with the current crisis.

I come back to the original question which has been haunting me since my daughter was born.  Do I want her to experience the safe, peaceful and luxurious life of Doha or do I want stability for her in Cochin? (In a secret part of my heart, I always chose Doha, unless I have to leave not on my own accord!) This feeling of ‘home in spite of uncertainties’ precisely sums up expat childhood.

 Did you have an expat childhood in the Middle East? How has your experience been?

As our third generation grows here (to be precise, fourth generation) I am duly grateful for the happy and peaceful childhood I have had here. Alhamdulilah. As I watch my child play at the exactly same places I remember spending time as a child (Corniche!), I look back upon the past 24 years of our lives here. Qatar has been home for me since the time I could remember. In a few months time, my parents shall be moving back to our home country and as we start packing up, I can’t help but reflect upon the fact that an expat childhood means you will one day have to bid good bye to the tangible memories and remains of your childhood – the home, the bed, the toys and books. Your childhood home is not yours forever. It all lasts until the validity of your residence permit. My heart feels heavy. I feel home here. More than my own home town. (To put into perspective, this life and home was never meant to be forever. Isn’t it? To Him we belong!) …and I am again back to the decision that has been haunting me since my daughter was born – Where should we raise her? The stability of Cochin or the peaceful and luxurious life of Doha? Happy National Day, Qatar. (Highly appreciate the decision to forego any celebrations this year in solidarity with the people of Aleppo. May God grant them peace and an end to this bloodshed) Photo by Azeem. #QatarNationalDay #QND2016 #QND #expatchildhood #expatblog

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Expat Childhood in the Middle East

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