Week 11 of 2021 Alhamdulilah! Sharing a picture daily from our small world as part of Project 365
Saturday, March 13, 2021
Taking kids out for shopping is also guilt ridden now! What times!?!
Meanwhile, my eldest lost her second milk tooth!
Sunday, March 14, 2021
Growing up my parents used to buy everything in pairs for my brothers. (They had an age gap of two years)
Now with my own kids with an age gap of 2.9 years I totally understand why!!
Everything that the 5-year-old does, the 2-year old also has to do. Even studying for her exams! 😁 Books, toys, chocolate, anything and everything has to be two in our house.
A friend remarked – buy one – so that it teaches them to learn to share. But I find they are not old enough to understand the concept of sharing equally.
So what is the correct way of parenting? Buy everything equally for the kids or buy one and make them share?
Monday, March 15, 2021
As Desi parents, ‘Don’t make me angry!’ is like on the tip of our tongues. I have to consciously try to control myself to stop saying this statement and the likes.
So why is it wrong?
Well, because our child is not responsible for our feelings, rather we feel that way (for eg: anger) because of our own self ( eg: tired/hungry/frustrated etc etc)
Every time we say to our child ‘Doing so and so activity makes me proud/sad/angry/worried, we reinforce this concept back to them that our emotions as a parent are controlled by their actions.
Rather we can say to them the action they are doing is dangerous or harmful or how the choice they have taken is a good one or that we can see how kind they are being to others (etc as per the situation!)
I was having a hard day today and was feeling low so I went off to bed. My daughter came up with this artwork and gifted it to me. It put a genuine smile on my face because it was such a kind action. I was about to say, ‘You made me so happy!’ (It genuinely did!) but I stopped myself, thought a little bit and tried to deflect my attention back to her and her action and replied, ‘It is such a kind thing! Thank you very much!’ She was so excited. ❤️
(Quite often, I cannot really remember all the tips and hacks I have read in the parenting books – this time thankfully could. Alhamdulilah. Meaning I am not always thoughtful or kind or correct! I get mad quite often something I am not proud of at all! Social media makes us believe the person is always like that when they are sharing just one instance out of many wrong instances. Disclaimer!)
My parenting journey is learning, unlearning and relearning.
@thedoctormommy talks quite a lot about this topic and it has been really an eye-opener to me. Check her out for great parenting insights. MashAllah TabarakaAllah4d
Tuesday, March 16, 2021
Today’s online class was doing graduation day craft work. (I didn’t have chart paper and yellow wool so gave them A4 blue sheet & thread!🙈)
This precious little girl of mine is going to be done with her KG-2 and off to big school soon. InshaAllah.
I still can’t believe she is 5 (and a half!) Alhamdulilah.
It feels like just yesterday she was born and I was so excited about cloth diapering!!🙈🙈
Wednesday, March 17, 2021
Recently she started her coin collection. She does have serious daily auditing routine too! 🙂
Thursday, March 18, 2021
I was feeling quite uninspired today and hence do not have any photo. Sharing a picture from two days ago when we made the Tiktok viral ‘ Feta Cheese Pasta’. I and husband liked it , kids tried it but not to the point of favourite!
Friday, March 19, 2021
Of late, I am finding it difficult to stay positive. That’s why I like doing this project 365. It forces me to at least click a picture even when I really do-not feel like writing or taking a photograph.
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